If it is true that people
see you the way you see yourself, it is especially true for a man that the
opinion of his partner plays a part on how he sees himself. As a woman you have
to be careful about how you portrays and see your man, because it will affect
the way he sees himself. If you want your man to be as you wish him to be,
start by calling him that way, continually call and act as if he is already as
you want him to be. You might want to have a wise, caring, proactive and smart
man who always look after the best interest of his family. At the moment your
man may be just the opposite, uncaring and wasteful with his spending but if
you react angrily and begin to call him dreadful names you will surely keep him
where he is.
Your partner might not be
what you want him to be at the moment but do not make the common mistake of
calling him what you don’t want him to be. A woman disappointed by her husband
antics started calling him stupid all the times, she will insult him for making
stupid decisions and unable to properly look after his family. As time went on
the man grew tired of his wife disdain and confided in another woman he used to
see in a park where he was taking refuge to escape from his nagging wife. She
soon became his confidant and tried her best to console him. They started a relationship
which lasted for years because the other woman knew what not to say to him. She
saw him as her king while his wife called him a fool.
One day as he was looking
through their wedding album, his wife started her usual insult and again
complained that he made another stupid decision. The man calmly carried on
flipping through the wedding album and concurred with his wife by saying “yes that
is true, I make stupid mistakes” while looking at the wedding photos. He proceeded
to inform his wife that their marriage was a mistake and he was divorcing her. The
man had come to a point where he could no longer endure the constant criticism
and almost daily insult of his wife, he was beginning to believe that he was
really stupid when he met the other woman who painted a different picture of
him.
The fact that it is only the
behaviour of women towards men been discussed here does not mean that some men
don’t behave as bad as those nagging women. As a woman you have the ability to
help your partner become a loving, caring and special man if you take the time
to know him well enough so you can carefully and gradually build him up to your
desired level. You also know that no man is perfect but, a work in progress. Like
a everybody else, your man like to be praised, acknowledged, encouraged and
recognised as the head of his family. If you constantly challenged his
authority and make him feel small in his kingdom, he might seek solace
elsewhere because he wants to feel appreciated and valued.
Keeping your man on his best
behaviour requires less work than you think, even if it is not one hundred
percent guarantee as a woman you can significantly reduce the risk of losing
him to another woman. A loving woman is a caring woman which means even when
she disagrees with her partner, she will lovingly express her discontent
without being disdainful and callous in her behaviour. If you want to keep a
peaceful home and a loving partner, learn to appreciate him and never take him
for granted, avoid open criticism as it will lead to conflict and create a wedge
between you. Learn to overlook as much as possible the flaws of your partner
while magnifying his qualities and praising him for his contribution in your
relationship. If you constantly seek and speak to the king in your man while
deliberately staying away from the fool, I can safely say that you are much
more likely to build the foundation of a long lasting and loving relationship.
CHRISTIAN
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