If you know who you are and
understand exactly what you want, it will be easier for you to make decisions
about your life. The difficulty for most people is that few really know
themselves; they might think they do but it is easily seen in their ability to
make important decisions during key times in their life. The better you know
yourself the easier it will be for you to trust you own judgement. That is why
Aristotle said: “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom”. The fact
that it is not easy to know yourself is further reinforced by this assertion
from Thales which states: “The most difficult thing in life is to know
yourself.” If you ask a lot of people
whether they truly know who they are, you are likely to hurt the feelings of
few because they really believe that question to be irrelevant.
It not easy for many to
openly admit that they don’t know themselves as much as they thought they did,
because most people automatically make that assumption without ever questioning
it to ascertain its veracity. In order to function in society and have social
connections, you have to be able to trust others. You have to be capable of
trust with you relatives, friends, colleagues or business partners. Trust is
the basis of most relationships, because two or more people cannot have a
friendship or working relationship without trust. If you are unable to trust
yourself, how will you be able to trust others?
This is the dilemma facing
some people in life, those who have gone through difficult times and came out seriously
scared by that experience. You have to be able to move pass these difficult
stories if you want to have a life, when you allow you past stories to rule
your life you become a prisoner. The more you live those stories by constantly
recounting them to others, the more power you give them over your life and
finally you become your stories. They become your reference and stop you from
living in the present. Making a mistake is part of live and it is okay, some of
the most successful people you know today made some woeful mistake when they
were starting out. One of Thomas Edison’s teachers told him he was too stupid
to learn anything and advised him to go into a field where he might succeed by
virtue of his pleasant personality.
There are many examples of
today’s famous people who made so much bad mistakes that they are sometimes
ashamed to be reminded of them. The difference between people who succeed and
the rest is that, even after many setbacks they keep learning and trusting
their own ability to make good and sound decisions. The fundamental to
understand here your mistakes are not you; they are not an indication of your
ability and potential to succeed in your endeavour. Your ability to succeed is
not affected by your failures but your response to the setbacks. Most people
respond to making mistakes by refusing to try again and giving up, while the
few who succeed learn from the life’s challenges. The successful person
acknowledges his mistakes and is ready and willing to try again at the earliest
opportunity.
If you want to succeed you
have to learn to trust yourself by taking the decision to know yourself better
than anyone else. Knowing yourself better stops you from seeing you through the
eyes of others. The confidence of taking actions at important times in your
life and the desire to move forward with strong resolve come from knowing
yourself and trusting your ability to make decisions about important aspects of
your life. The more you trust yourself, the more confident you become about
your intrinsic value and your power to exert changes in your life. The trust
factor allows you to calmly learn from mistakes while moving forward in your
life with zest and gusto.
CHRISTIAN
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