HOW EASILY DO WE SOMETIMES FORGET?

Why are we sometimes so ungrateful? Why do we always remember the bad? Are these questions reminding you of something familiar? If the answers to the last question is yes, you are in good company because many can testify of the fact they have been victims of a friend or a relative who let them down when they needed them the most. How easy is it to forget the promises you made, the vow you took and the commitment you made. Do you remember the last time you kept your words? How easy is it to only think about what is not working? Contrary to what you might think, you have more reason to be cheerful than you have to be sad. Think about how you feel when you are happy, think about how you can easily see beauty around you when you are happy.

Are you really quick to forget all the good things that have been done to you by others? What about those who care about you? Are you going to focus on their flaws or on the good in them? How easy is it to forget all the good things your friends did for you? You have to be conscious of the fact that no one is perfect; you cannot suddenly forget all the services that were rendered to you because your friend has made a mistake. Unfortunately, that is how the world seems to remember people who have sometimes sacrificed their freedom to save others. It doesn’t matter how good you have been to some people, the moment you step out of line they forget all that to only focus on the bad behaviour. Some people want to believe to worst in others, therefore disregarding the good that can be found in all of us.

How easy is it to forget that what I did to save you from getting into serious trouble last time, just because I could not help this time. How easy is it to forget your commitment to your wife, just because she is not as beautiful as your next door neighbour wife. How easy is it to forget your promise to your children, just because you could not resist spending your money on alcohol? How easy is it to overlook your commitment to achieving your goal, just because you think it too hard? We have a selective memory which allows us to conveniently forget what we want as long as our interest is served. How does it help to be ungrateful? How does it help you to be sad? How does is it help you to be miserable or look for the worst in others?

Why do we forget so soon? Is it not better to look for the good in others instead of seeking the bad? A business man went to see his friend for help because he was facing financial difficulties. His good friend duly came to his aid and lent him a huge sum of money to help, on condition that he pays back the money in a month. Tired of waiting for his friend to pay back the money, he reminded him that he needed that money to pay for his products. The borrower refused to pay his friend back because he knew there was no evidence he received the money. The lender was made bankrupt because he trusted and only wanted to help a friend in need. How easy was it for the borrower friend to forget that his lender friend save him from going bust? How easy is it for us to forget to love? How easy is it to forget to care or to remember the good done to us? Why do we forget so easily all the services rendered to us by others?

If you make a conscious effort to always be grateful towards others, to try as much as possible to see the good in other people, you will be able to easily overlook their flaws. Nobody is perfect and, we all make mistakes. You should not hold people mistakes against them forever while refusing to acknowledge their previous positive contribution. It hurts when no one sees the good you do, but quickly react every time you put a foot wrong. Remember that as human being, we sometimes learn by making mistakes. Don’t forget the love and care you received from others in your moment of trials. If we all forgot the good that was done to us, who would remember to praise you for your services.

 

CHRISTIAN