It is always very convenient
to blame others for our misfortune, so we don’t have to take responsibility for
our actions. Whenever something is not working the way we expect it to, someone
has to be responsible and that person is rarely us. Blaming others for our
problems can ever make us look good but, deep down most people know who is the
real culprit even if they are not prepared to admit to out loud or to
themselves. There is a fundamental truth that cannot be overlook, blame someone
else for the result of your actions take away power from you and make you
powerless. You have to understand that if think that your friends are
responsible for giving you bad advice; you are implicitly admitting that your
friends are in control of your life not you.
I have heard people
including some from my family blame their parents for the fact that they are
not living their desired life. Your parents made the decisions for you when you
were a child but, what about your adult life, are they still making decision in
your present life? You cannot drag the past into the present in order to blame
others for your poor judgement. The life you are living is as a result of all
the choices you have made and continue to make every single day. So if there is
something you do not like, you have look at what you are doing to create that
condition and change it to make it happen differently.
If you continuously blame
others for every unfortunate situation in your life, you should equally blame
them for the good that sometimes happen in your life. If you are not in control
of your life, everything that happen good and bad should be attributed to the
person or people who are in charge of your life. Since you have decided to hand
control of your life to others, they are also entitled to claim the good things
that happen to you.
You should never allow
yourself to blame others whatever the circumstances because by so doing, you
relinquish control of your life to them. Be glad to be in control of your life
and, never allow anyone to take possession of what belongs to you. You have to
be in charge of your life to make the choices necessary to bring about the kind
of result you desire. When life is getting tougher and you are struggling to
achieve the result you want, be happy to be in control that is the only place
from which you can bring about change. Never indulge in the blame game, it good
for the lazy and the irresponsible which I trust you are not. Accept
responsibility for all your choices and their outcomes. Learn from your mistake
and don’t dwell on your setbacks.
As long as you are in
control of your life, keep learning from your mistake and refuse to blame
anyone for your problem, you will eventually get the breakthrough you are
looking for. If you are used to indulging in the blame game, you will never
grow, develop or improve yourself. We only want to better ourselves when we
accept responsibility and, if others are to blame it means you are blameless
and therefore no need to make any changes about the way you are. You might be
living under the illusion that blaming others helps you deflect attention onto
them but, the habit of blaming others destroys your soul in the long run and
leave you empty and powerless. What could be worse than to see someone else run
your life to their liking with you as a passive spectator?
CHRISTIAN
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