WHAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING……….REALLY

Do you know what you should be doing today? What are you supposed to do in such circumstances? Are you doing things the way they should be done? These and many similar questions are thrown at you or swirl in your mind every hour of the day, depending on what you are doing or who you are listening to. This kind of conversation is quite common to many people you meet and more than acceptable for the majority of people to think like that. The problem is everybody is been programmed to think and act in a specific way by your family, your educator which is the school system and your environment including your peers. Each time you try to break rank, you are quickly brought back in line because you become a threat to the system that surround or the group you belong to.

If you want to see any evidence in action of what I am trying to explain here, begin to observe people around you from today and if you look carefully you will notice that those around you seem to behave in a more or less the same way. People within any given group will tend to speak the same way, shop at similar places, dress in a similar fashion and even have the same enemy. At the first sign of resistance of your group rule, you are isolated and made an outcast as a punishment for threatening the foundation of the group. Within every organisation or group you are forced to follow the rule or excluded for non-compliance to the rules. If you want to resist the rule of your group, you have to be prepared to accept exclusion from the group because you will not be allowed to overlook the rules while you remain an insider.

This is what you should do and similar statements are ways to keep you under the control of the group and ensure you are compliant with the rules of the group. Only the mentally strong can risk exclusion by breaking away from the group, because if you don’t have the mental resources to withstand the group pressure and accept the possibility of being left out, you will quickly fall back into line to avoid the pain of being lonely and excluded from those you consider as friends.  Few people can take that kind of risk because of the consequences attached to that action, most people would rather gladly follow the rule of their organisation or group even if they don’t agree with them. The reason most people accept to live by the rule they don’t approve of is because of fear, they are afraid of being alone and think it is easier to bury their discontent rather than challenging the group and facing exclusion.

The truth is different because it is more damaging for you to bury your objections and live a lie than risk exclusion by challenging the status quo of your group. When you make the dreadful decision to be governed by your fear instead of living a life on your terms, you become a slave or a follower. Living by other people rules without ever having any influence on the way things are will destroy your self-confidence and make you an eternal follower. You will lose your identity to be part of the group as you only exist through the group and its obligations. You can live your life on your terms if you accept the risks involved, you can free yourself from the shackles of suppose to and should if you are ready to start again. Never be afraid to challenge the rule you don’t agree with in your group if you want to live the life you deserve. The only thing you are supposed to do or should be doing is to live the life your heart desires.   

CHRISTIAN